The big 'D,' no one plans for it, no one expects it. Why else would you go through the hassle, I mean, joys of a wedding ceremony/ reception experience ;0) So this is what I am discovering through my first break up after divorce. I've talked to several other friends who have also gone through divorce recently and also within the last 6 months or so experienced their first break up.
The conclusion is simple. The very first long-term relationship break-up after divorce hits as hard if not harder as getting divorced itself.
All of us experienced the same essence of pain, the same memories of failure, and the same inner struggle that came with divorce. The first break-up after divorce then is like getting to experience the divorce all over again. Who knew? You don't expect divorce, you don't expect to get your heart torn up in a blender just as badly if not worse in the following failed relationship.
Somehow having had this discussion with several of my friends and we all went through the same emotional struggles, makes this experience more tolerable. For one, there is someone to talk to who gets it. For another, it's recognition that the experience is apparently a natural occurance. The people in this 'study' were all girls late 20's to early 30's who had been divorced, fell in love again, had a long term relationship, and then experienced a miserable break-up.
Although I could probably attempt an effort at a better writing style, I am actually happy about being over analytical this time, so that I now am beginning a 180 toward moving forward and letting go of the past.
The past is the past. One day at a time and all that jazz.... the end. :)
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